Most Americans are coddled in today’s day and age. They are told their problems and their station in life are “society’s fault.”
It isn’t — your life is your fault. Nobody else is to blame for how you respond and deal with your problems except for yourself. That is certainly not the “special message” delivered in education, media, and the government, but it is one we all need to be reminded of from time to time. If that’s the first you have ever been told that, then perhaps this column is meant especially for you.
Instead of being told they alone must create a better life for themselves and that they cannot blame their issues on others, most individuals are fed the lie that they are “good enough” as they are. They are constantly told they should not strive to be something greater. It’s the rest of the world who needs to adjust. So, people buy into that lie, and think, “You’re right. I don’t need to change. If I have any flaws, it’s [insert any external scapegoat’s] fault that I am the way I am.”
We now have entire generations of people who stagnate rather than become the person God wants them to be. In fact, rather than focus on what they should do for a better life, they instead focus on what they can do.
To paraphrase my colleague, Matt Walsh, “Just because you can do something, doesn’t mean that you should as an adult.”
You can tattoo your entire body. You can eat thousands of calories a day and never throw in a sit-up. You can consume pornography on your water bed and plunge yourself into a virtual world of lust. And, even if you are almost 50-years-old, you can choose to date another person the moment they turn 18 under the law.
If you want to look like a morbidly obese lizard person who preys upon younger women or men while being a sex addict, then go ahead. When others treat you with disgust and shun you, then you cannot blame others for that rejection.
If you want to live a life worth living, none of those ideas are any good. They are all terrible ideas that will also put your soul in jeopardy.
As discussed on the Candace Owens podcast on Monday, even if you’ve made awful decisions, it is never too late to change to become a better person. You are allowed to do that at any point in time. What you are not allowed to do is claim that somebody else forced you to make those choices and place the fault at their feet. Technically you can do that, but it is not respectful, dignified, or mature behavior.
Now to be clear, bad things can happen to you that are completely out of your control. Terrible situations arise that are of no fault of your own. What you are responsible for is how you handle those horrible things.
For example, you might have had an awful upbringing. You had no say in what happened to you when you were a child, but you can certainly control things when you are an adult.
How you respond to your childhood is entirely your obligation. And your reaction to whatever God puts before you in the past, present, and future can only be chosen by you.
Now, if you actually have a wonderful life and you are proud of it — then your life is your “fault” as well. You have made good choices that have brought you to where you are today. Yet there is always room to improve.
Dr. Jordan Peterson agrees with this. On Friday, he released a four-part series entitled “Vision & Destiny” available exclusively on DailyWire+. Here is the trailer for it:
The first episode can be watched here.
Don’t accept yourself as you are. Have a vision. Be better, be smarter. Work harder, don’t settle.
Remember — your life is your fault. Good or bad.